How to help your autistic child with day-to-day life

How to help your child communicate

Dealing with anxiety

Anxiety affects a lot of autistic children and adults. It can be caused by not being able to make sense of things going on around them, and feeling misunderstood or unaccepted by people who are not autistic.

Try to find out why your child's feeling anxious.

It might be because of:

• a change in routine – it might help to prepare your child for any change, such as a change of class at school
• difficulty identifying, understanding or managing their feelings
• a noisy or brightly coloured place – it might help to take your child to a calmer place, such as another room

If your child is often anxious, ask your GP about therapy, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which may help.

Search The National Autistic Society's directory for counsellors experienced in helping people with autism and read more about managing anxiety from The National Autistic Society.

Helping with your child's behaviour

Some autistic children have behaviours such as:

• stimming – a kind of repetitive behaviour (such as flapping their hands or flicking their fingers)
• meltdowns – a complete loss of control caused by being totally overwhelmed

If your child has these behaviours, read our advice about how to help your child's behaviour.

Eating difficulties

Many children are "fussy eaters".

Autistic children may:

• only want to eat foods of a certain colour or texture
• not eat enough or eat too much
• eat things which are not food (called pica)
• have problems with coughing or choking while eating
• be constipated, so they feel full even when they have not eaten much food

It may help to keep a food diary, including what, where and when your child eats. This can help you notice any common issues your child has.

Speak to a GP or your autism team about any problems your child's having with eating.

The National Autistic Society has more about how to help with eating problems

Problems sleeping

Many autistic children find it hard to get to sleep, or wake up several times during the night.

This may be because of:

• anxiety
• sensitivity to the light from smartphones or tablets
• problems with the sleep hormone melatonin
• issues such as hyperactivity or a health condition that affects sleep

You can help your child by:

• keeping a sleep diary of how your child sleeps to help you notice any common issues
• following the same bedtime routine
• making sure their bedroom is dark and quiet
• letting them wear ear plugs if it helps
• talking to a GP about how to manage health conditions that make sleep difficult, such as a food sensitivity or breathing problem

If these tips do not help, talk to your autism team about creating a sleep plan to help your child's sleep behaviour.

If your child's sleep does not get better, a GP might refer you to a paediatrician or child psychiatrist with experience of autism who can prescribe a medicine called melatonin to help your child sleep.

Staying healthy

It's important that your child has regular check-ups with the:

• dentist
• optician
• doctors treating any other conditions your child has

Children over 14 who also have a learning disability are entitled to an annual health check.

Do not be afraid to let staff know what they can do to make it easier to go for check-ups.

Find out more ways to stay healthy from the National Autistic Society

Friendships and socialising

Some autistic children find it hard to make friends.

There are some things you can do to help: